The Wolfdog

I read an article once that described three types of people.

The first are the “sheep.” The author states,

One Vietnam veteran, an old retired colonel, once said this to me: “Most of the people in our society are sheep. They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt one another by accident.”

I mean nothing negative by calling them sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue robin’s egg. Inside it is soft and gooey but someday it will grow into something wonderful.

He then writes about the wolf:

“Then there are the wolves,” the old war veteran said, “and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy.”

Finally, he writes about the third type: the sheepdog:

“Then there are sheepdogs,” he went on, “and I’m a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the wolf.” Or, as a sign in one California law enforcement agency put it, “We intimidate those who intimidate others.”

He summarizes:

If you have no capacity for violence then you are a healthy productive citizen: a sheep. If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath--a wolf. But what if you have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? Then you are a sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero’s path.

I would like to extend my sincerest thanks to all sheepdogs. An example of a sheepdog is the person who assumes the responsibility of carrying a firearm with him in public such that, if the situation calls for it, will save his own and many others’ lives. It is the soldier who signs up for military service in order to defend his country and subsequently all in it. They do the grisly work that most others lack the courage or ability to do. Their role is often misunderstood and they are often the target of wrath. To them: a thank you.

I would like to, in addition to these three types, submit a fourth type of person: the wolfdog.

From a proper stand point, a wolfdog is a hybrid between a dog and a wolf, which will be useful for explanation. I am, however, presenting this as a concept. Whereas the heroic sheepdog protects the peaceful sheep; the wolfdog protects the predatory wolf.

The wolfdog comes to the defense of the wolf, claiming a lack of mercy and compassion. The wolfdog tries to actively stop the sheepdog.

I came to this concept after working at a job where I encountered a bully. He was abusive, mocking, purposely tried to shut people out, etc. I was young and it was the first really difficult personality I had encountered. It was difficult for me to process at the time, having no real tools or power (that I knew of) to deal with it, and very much upset me.

What made it worse was that one of my coworkers, who also happened to be worthless as far as productivity goes, came to this bully’s defense whenever someone tried to do something about the bully. “Don’t judge!” The insinuation was that anyone who wanted to get the bully reprimanded was a big meanie.

I think it is important to tell the story of this wolfdog. From his own descriptions, he used to be an erratic person with no control over his life and a tendency towards destruction. He describes how he played Russian roulette when younger. He was divorced at least once.

He then found Christianity. He credits Christianity, I suppose, with taking him from being the erratic psychopath described to a mere bum at work.

This wolfdog, being a former wolf, of course will come to the wolf’s defense. They battle and often stop the sheepdog. While the wolf is feasting on a snack or meal of sheep, such as me while the victim of the bully, the wolfdog ensures that it continues to happen.

A recent and more public example of wolfdogs defending a wolf was all who insisted on compassion for the obviously violent and drug addicted Charlie Sheen.

Charlie Sheen had a meltdown in March of 2011 where he went on a radio show and said very bizarre things about people who cut his paychecks. He then had a string of appearances in which he was clearly under the influence of a drug. He responded once that he is on a drug and it’s called “Charlie Sheen.”

Sheen has a history of violence. Virtually no woman he has ever been with stays with him. He accidentally shot one of his former wives. His very beautiful ex-wife, Denise Richards, filed for divorce when she was 8 months pregnant. I don’t know any woman who wants a man around more than a very pregnant woman. A couple is normally happy and excited at that time in their life. You have to be a total sack of shit to have a woman leave you at this time.

So, what’s not to love about Sheen? Explaining why people don’t like him, Sheen rationalizes:

I don't have time for their judgment and their stupidity and you know they lay down with their ugly wives in front of their ugly children and look at their loser lives and then they look at me and they say, 'I can't process it' well, no, you never will stop trying, just sit back and enjoy the show. You know?

Sheen was fired from his job on Two and Half Man in March after his antics. When some expressed gratitude over this, many wolfdogs were right there lecturing about the need to show this man compassion.

Really? Compassion? The man gallivants around the world with models by his side, abuses women, and has declared all of us little people as being just jealous. Yes, Sheen is the one who needs compassion.

Compassion, second chances, and success have only emboldened Sheen. He clearly looks at his life, sees that he makes lot of money, has fame and women, and has decided that his way of doing things must be the right way. He blatantly says as much,

As kids we're not taught how to deal with success; we're taught how to deal with failure. If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. If at first you succeed, then what?

And his more famous quote:

I'm bi-winning. I win here and I win there. Now what? If I'm bipolar, aren't there moments where a guy like crashes in the corner like, 'Oh my God, it's all my mom's fault!' Shut up! Shut up! Stop! Move forward.

If you genuinely wanted to help Sheen, you would give him the tough love he obviously needs. He would have to be stripped of all fame, money, and women. He needs to see where his actions will logically take him: as a lonely man with nothing and whose ex-wives want nothing to do with.

However, I personally am not interested in helping this man, so I would not do anything to accelerate this situation. Ironically, it is this exact attitude, which, if adopted by all, would cause Sheen to hit the rock bottom that he needs to hit.

There are wolfdogs elsewhere. A more authentic type of wolfdog is those who come to the defense of murderers. They may want mercy for these beasts by demanding a ban on the use of the death penalty. They can only see the seeming meanness of the sheepdog and refuse to look at the wolf’s victims.

In almost all situations in which the wolf wins, it is done so because of the enabling of the wolfdog. It is not due to a lack of sheepdogs.

Let us hope that the sheepdogs are strong enough to stand up to both the wolves and the wolfdogs.

Amber Pawlik
March 18, 2011


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