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||The Lucky Mom: How to have a Happy Infant through Respect, Observation, and Understanding
This book is a guide to being that "lucky" parent with the happy baby. It is a very concise book with thoroughly cross-referenced information for parents regarding sleeping and eating habits and the intellectual and physical growth of an infant. A philosophy is presented of respecting the child where the parent observes the child for signs of hunger, sleep, or other needs, and responds appropriately. This book will give you much of the information you need as a parent in just a few hours!
Table of Contents
All Things Baby: Preparing for Your First Child
Newborns Should Not be Forced on Their Mother's Chest Every Two Hours After Birth
Newborns Should be Spoiled not 'Trained'
The Epistemological Development of an Infant
Skip Jar Food!
Catch Skills at the Right time
On Safety for Children
This book was written after much research on the care and development of infants and after having the no-kidding, yes-I-really-did-this experience of raising an infant.
Before I had a child of my own, I had many preconceived, unchallenged views on child-raising. In reading through many professional books, my own views were constantly challenged. Though some of my previous ideas held up as true, many of my ideas were changed due to reading persuasive arguments from books; still others had to wait until I had a child of my own to be demolished. Having gone through this transformation, I submit to you, puts me in a unique position to give good advice and to give a very clear explanation as to why it is good.
The amount of information that exists about raising an infant would fill up several libraries. It can be, and was, intimidating to wade through even a fraction of it. I took it upon myself to read as much as I could. My husband can attest to the many nights that I suffered eyestrain while pregnant! I read through books recommended by respected friends, others that were part of the mainstream, and some that offered brand new, non-mainstream advice. Much of the information in what I was reading seemed contradictory. I started to plot out what each book said, comparing and contrasting each, to get the best possible timeline of the development of an infant. This research, along with very exacting, time-stamped milestones, is contained in this book. My goal in writing this book is to present this information in as concise of a way as possible to allow you to have the information without having to log all of the hours I did.
After doing all of this, I developed a theory about raising children which, simply stated, is to respect the child. The child has certain non-negotiable needs that a parent should figure out and deliver. In addition to understanding the known development of children, the heart and soul of parenting is observation. For infants, watch them and learn their signals. An overview of what feeding, sleeping, and other signals to look for are provided in this book. I am a strong believer that children should be understood and respected, not manipulated and trained to fit our own ideas of how they should be or what would be convenient for us.
Finally, this book also offers a unique perspective in that it was written by a mom. Medical professionals sometimes forget that parents are not inexhaustible sources of time and energy. Any current standard advice that is not necessary for the benefit of the child, but wears on mom and dad, is called out as such. Make no mistake about it: the first few months after a newborn is brought home are brutal. A newborn needs to eat approximately every 3 hours for the full 24 hours in a day, and it will be like this for weeks. Most postpartum problems, in my opinion, are actually sleep deprivation. Parents should be set up for success as best as possible, focusing only on those things that are essential for the health, safety, and development of their child.
The title “Lucky Mom” is tongue in cheek. It is a response to the many people who tell me I am “lucky” for having a happy baby. I do consider myself lucky for having a child—truly a blessing! However, after the countless nights researching, the countless hours preparing, the through-the-roof sleep deprivation, and the 100% commitment I have to respecting my child, telling me I am “lucky” is a bit much. If you take with total seriousness tending to your infant's needs appropriately, they tend to be happy. There is simply not much for them to cry about and every reason to smile.